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J.M.J.
THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN
May 2002
NO ONE IS SURE TO WHOM THESE HAUNTING LINES WERE ADDRESSED. BUT ONE THING IS CERTAIN, THAT SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME THERE HAVE BEEN WOMEN LIKE THAT, WOMEN WHO SEEM TO HAVE BEEN BORN WITH GRACE AND CHARM THAT MAKES THEM LIVE ON FOREVER IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE WHO KNOW THEM.
THIS MONTH HONORS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL OF EARTHLY GIFTS, THE GIFT OF MOTHERHOOD. ALL THAT I PERSONALLY AM, HAVE, OR HAVE BECOME, I OWE TO MY WONDERFUL SACRIFICING HOLY MOTHER MOLLY (ISMALIA) PAZIENZA DIORIO.
MY MOTHER AT THIS TIME, AT THE AGE OF 92, IS SUFFERING IN A DIFFICULT AND ANGUISHING DEBILITATING WAY. SHE EXPERIENCED ANOTHER STROKE. WITH RESPECT FOR LIFE, SHE IS NOW BEING KEPT ALIVE WITH FEEDING BY A TUBE. PRESENTLY, NOT ABLE TO SWALLOW NOR SPEAK. SHE REMAINS PRAYERFULLY STILL WITH NO REAL DEFINITIVE AFFECT. ABOVE ALL, TO HOLY ADMIRATION AS A WOMAN OF GOD, SHE DEMONSTRATES NO COMPLAINT.
AS MOM PASSES FROM SUNRISE TO SUNSET, SHE IS TOTALLY AT THE LOVING TENDER AND CARING SKILLED HANDS OF MY DEAR SISTER JUDE ANN. JUDE ANN -- JUDY AS WE AFFECTIONATELY CALL HER -- IS AN OUTSTANDING EXAMPLE OF A TRUE DAUGHTER OF LOVE AND AN ANGEL OF MERCY EXPRESSING HER DEVOTION IN SACRIFICE. SHE LOVES AND SERVES AS ONLY A WOMAN OF GOD CAN LOVE AND SERVE. WHERE DO SUCH GREAT WOMAN COME FROM? WHY DID GOD SEND THEM AMONG US? AND THIS IS THE FOCAL POINT FOR THIS INSPIRATIONAL ARTICLE. MAY IT SERVE AS A LAUNCHING PATH, AS A CENTRAL CORE FOR THIS ISSUE'S INSPIRATIONAL MESSAGE.
BOTH IN GOOD TIMES AND IN BAD TIMES, MY MOTHER HOLDS ON TO HER CHRIST. WITH A LIVING FAITH, SHE CONTINUOUSLY SIGNS HERSELF USING HER RIGHT HAND IN THAT SIGN OF THE CROSS WHICH CONQUERS ALL EVIL. WITH THAT SAME HAND MOM CONTINUOUSLY BLESSES MY BROTHER, MY SISTER, AND ME. WITH HER CHRIST THIS WOMAN OF DECISIVE CHARACTER UNSHAKABLY MAKES A SACRIFICE OF HER HUMAN PAIN. SHE REFUSES TO WASTE THE GIFT OF PAIN AS HARD AS IT MAY BE.
MOTHER MOLLY, AS AFFECTIONATELY CALLED BY PEOPLE, ACCEPTS IN A SPIRIT OF FAITH ALONE THIS ANGUISH AS A GIFT FROM THE DIVINE LOVER. SHE UTILIZES IT FOR SELF PURIFICATION AND FOR THE BENEFIT OF OTHERS. FOR HER, --- AND PERHAPS HER LAST EARTHLY AGONY --, MOTHER MOLLY TRANSFORMS THE SUFFERINGS OF BEING HUMAN AS AN ADDED FAITH-BELIEVING STEPPING STONE TO HER CHRIST WHOM SHE HAS LOVED AND SERVED FOR A LIFETIME.
GREAT AND UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN DO LIVE AMONG US:
MY MOTHER IS UNFORGETTABLE. AND IF THE GOOD LORD CALLS HER HOME NOW OR SOON, SHE IS TRULY THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN. MY HOLY SAINTLY MOTHER MOLLY HAS BEEN MY GUIDING LIGHT TO THE THRONE OF GOD'S PRESENCE. SHE THROUGH HER RESPECT FOR HOLY MARRIAGE VOWS HAS FAITHFULLY LIVED FOR HER HUSBAND USHERING HIM TO THE GREAT WHITE THRONE OF HEAVEN. SHE HAS LIVED DEVOTEDLY AND UNDAUNTEDLY FOR HER THREE WONDERFUL CHILDREN, LOUIS, JUDY, AND MYSELF. FOR THIS REASON I AM INSPIRED TO WRITE THE FOLLOWING:
REASON FOR THIS ARTICLE:
AS MY INTRODUCTORY EXAMPLE STORY ABOUT MY MOTHER, MOLLY, ALLOW ME THE JOY AND THE PRIVILEGE THROUGH THIS ARTICLE TO HONOR ALL WOMEN, MY OWN AND YOURS, WITH THE WONDERS OF THAT MAGNIFICENT GIFT WHICH MAKES A WOMAN UNFORGETTABLE?
WHAT MAKES THEM UNFORGETTABLE?
I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IN THE WONDERS AND IN THE POWER OF GODLY WOMEN. WOMEN - GOOD OR NOT - ARE THE HEART OF THE FAMILY. THEY, THEREFORE, ARE THE HEART OF SOCIETY. I BELIEVE THE WORLD WILL BECOME BETTER THROUGH HOLY WOMEN WHO HAVE NOT LOST THEIR SENSE OF HOLINESS.
AS THE FIRST WOMAN, DECEIVED BY THE TRICKERY OF EVIL, SLIPPED UP IN THE HISTORY OF MAN, AND AS THE HOLY WOMAN, MARY, MOTHER OF GOD, BECAME THE SECOND EVE CRUSHING THE EVIL ONE WITH HER HEEL, HER SON JESUS THE CHRIST, SO DO I BELIEVE THAT EVERY WOMAN WHO NURTURES HER DIGNITY OF GODLINESS, WILL BE THE SEED FOR A REDEMPTIVE HUMANITY. SHE IS TRULY A RAINBOW OF HOPE FOR A GOD RESTORED HUMANITY.
THE MAGIC OF WOMANHOOD:
WHY DOES ONE WOMAN HAVE THIS MAGIC WHILE OTHERS, THOUGH THEY ARE KIND AND ATTRACTIVE, PASS AND ARE GONE? PERHAPS THE MOST UNIVERSAL ANSWER IS THAT THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN IS WARM AND RESPONSIVE. WHAT DOES THIS MAGIC MEAN? WHY ARE MEN SLAVES TO HER EVEN THOUGH MEN MACHO-LIKE PRIDE THEMSELVES AS FREE?
WHAT A WOMAN CAN DO:
MANY MEN BECAUSE OF THE RIGHT OR THE WRONG WOMAN IN HIS RELATIONSHIPS HAVE BECOME GREAT OR SMALL, VICTOR OR LOSER, ARTIST, POET, MURDERER, LOVER. WHY? YES! A WOMAN CAN MAKE OR BREAK SOCIETY. PERHAPS IT IS BECAUSE SHE HAS LOST CONTACT WITH HERSELF OR WITH HER TRUE GOD-GIVEN HUMANITY.
THE UNFORGETTABLE MAGIC: WHAT IS IT?
WHAT MAKES THESE SPLENDID CREATURES SO UNFORGETTABLE?
WHY DOES ONE WOMAN HAVE THIS MAGIC WHILE OTHERS, THOUGH THEY ARE KIND AND ATTRACTIVE, PASS AND ARE GONE? I OBSERVE THAT ALL DECENT MEN RECOGNIZE CERTAIN CHARACTERISTICS.
WHAT APPEAL IS THERE?
SEX APPEAL, OF COURSE, MOST UNFORGETTABLE WOMEN HAVE. YET BY ITSELF IT IS NOT ENOUGH. IT IS SEEN THAT MANY OF THE MEMORABLE WOMEN OF THE AGES RETAINED THEIR CAPTIVATING CHARMS IN OLD AGE, AS MY MOTHER STILL HAS EVEN AT THE AGE OF 92 AND AS SICK AS SHE PRESENTLY IS. MANY MEN HAVE CONTINUED TO LOVE THEM JUST AS THEY DID WHEN IN THEIR YOUTH. BEAUTY DOES NOT HARM! BUT SOME OF THE MOST INTRIGUING WOMEN HAVE NOT BEEN BEAUTIFUL.
A MOST UNIVERSAL ANSWER:
PERHAPS FROM A NATURAL POINT OF VIEW, A MOST UNIVERSAL ANSWER
STATES THAT THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN IS NOT ONLY WARM AND RESPONSIVE, BUT SHE IS ALSO ONE WHO TRANSMITS TO OTHERS THEIR PARTICULAR EMOTIONAL ATMOSPHERE. THEY SEEM TO SHOW THE WORLD HOW TO LOVE, TO SUFFER, TO BE HAPPY, TO LAUGH AT THE HUMOROUS.
THINGS IN LIFE.
IT IS NOTICED THAT THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN WHOM DECENT MEN WANT AND LOVE FOREVER ARE THOSE WOMEN WHO ARE AWARE OF ANOTHER HUMAN BEING. HER MIND IS BY NATURE HOSPITABLE TO ANOTHER'S IDEAS. HER HEART ABOVE ALL IS TUNED IN TO ANOTHER'S JOYS AND SORROWS. SHE CERTAINLY IS NOT AN ONLOOKER ON LIFE, BUT IS INVOLVED IN THE VERY MIDDLE OF WHATEVER IS WORTHY OF HER WOMANHOOD. DO YOU, MY READERS, KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING? IN OTHER WORDS, THE REAL UPRIGHT WHOLESOME WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE IS THAT LADY WHO CARES. SHE CARES! THINGS HAPPEN TO HER; SHE HAPPENS TO THEM.
A WOMAN IS FOREVER A MEMORY:
A WRITER ONCE STATED THAT EVERYTHING A MAN DOES WITH SUCH A WOMAN BECOMES A MEMORY. BECAUSE SHE WAS DELIGHTED, INTRIGUED, CURIOUS, HE REMEMBERS ALL THOSE MOMENTS OF PRECIOUS RECALL.
TO HIM, SHE NEVER DIES. SHE GIVES HERSELF TO THE THING SHE IS DOING. THIS IS HER QUALITY OF THE MOMENT. THAT MOMENT BELONGS ALL TO HER AND HER ALONE. SHE GIVES HERSELF IN THE THING SHE IS DOING.
SHE IS RESPONSIVE:
BECAUSE SHE IS RESPONSIVE, THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN HAS A GENIUS FOR DISCOVERING WHAT IS WORTHWHILE IN ANOTHER PERSON. SHE REJOICES IN THIS HIDDEN BLOOM.
SHE IS A PERSON OF HER OWN RIGHT:
HER GREATEST MOMENTS ARE HER DEEP CORE OF " ALONENESS. " SHE IS NOT LOST IN A CROWD BECAUSE SHE IS AND HAS A SENSE OF SERENITY. SOME OF HER OWN JOYS ARE INWARD BECAUSE SHE HAS A SATISFYING
EXISTENCE IN HER OWN MIND AND IMAGINATION. THEREFORE, SHE DOES NOT ENTERTAIN ANY DESIRE FOR A SLAVISH DESIRE TO PLEASE. IT GIVES HER A WONDERFUL SIMPLICITY AND A PROTECTION FROM FUSSINESS AND PETTINESS. SHE WANTS TO BE A SLAVE -- NOT A SLAVE OF SERVITUDE, BUT A SLAVE OF LOVE. SHE IS LOVE, AND MUST LIVE IN AND THROUGH AND FOR LOVE, FOR LOVE ALONE! HER VOCATION IS LOVE BECAUSE SHE WAS CREATED BY THE CREATOR OF LOVE.
GREAT AND WHOLESOME MEN ALL AGREE:
THE UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN IS FEMININE. SHE DOES NOT SEEK TO PROVE ANYTHING. SHE MAKES A MAN FEEL LIKE A MAN WHEN SHE IS WITH THEM.
SHE HAS TENDERNESS FOR A MAN BECAUSE HE SHOWS HER QUALITIES THAT AUTOMATICALLY WARRANT HER RESPECT AND HER SAFETY. HE WILL
NOT USE HER! SHE IS TOO PRECIOUS AND SENSITIVE AND TENDER FOR SUCH HURTFUL AND NEVER FORGOTTEN WOUNDS.
A MESSAGE TO MEN:
MEN OF GOD DO NOT SCAR THE NOBILITY OF WOMEN.
SELFISH MEN WICKEDLY USE WOMEN FOR THEIR OWN SATISFACTIONS. THESE TYPES OF MEN DO NOT KNOW WHAT LOVE TRULY IS. WOMEN FOR THEM ARE JUST A THING FOR SOLELY A BIOCHEMICAL RELEASE. THERE IS NO LOVE THERE.
THOSE WHO CRY IN SILENCE:
SOME WOMEN, UNFORTUNATELY, CRYING WITH TEARS OF SILENT NEED TO BE LOVED, SURRENDER THEIR NOBILITY AND DIGNITY. LET NO MAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SUCH LONELY CRYING HEARTS. GOD IS SERIOUS IN THIS ABUSE OF ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, BE THEY YOUNG OR NOT SO ADVANCED IN THE YEARS OF WISDOM.
MEN, PLEASE DO NOT:
MEN, AS YOU STAND BEFORE YOUR ETERNAL DESTINY, AND ETERNITY WILL COME, NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF INNOCENT LIVES. YOU WILL PAY HIGHLY FOR THAT ABUSE. DO NOT SCAR THE WOMAN WHOM GOD SENDS INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, INTO YOUR LIFE. DO NOT SCAR, FOR THAT MATTER, ANY WOMAN.
RESPECT THE NATURAL GIFT OF WOMEN TO LIKE MEN:
A WOMAN NATURALLY LIKES MEN. SHE FROM WAY DOWN DEEP IN HER BEING RESPECTS THEM. SHE ADMIRES WHAT THEY ARE TRYING TO ACHIEVE. SHE WANTS TO MAKE THEM HAPPY. HER TENDERNESS AND NOT HER SEXUAL PROWESS IS WHAT MAKES HER FEMININE. RESPECT THIS GOD-CREATED POWER OF HERS WHICH IS ALSO HER WEAKNESS. DON'T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER.
AND FINALLY:
AS I CONCLUDE THIS FIRST PART OF THE SUBJECT " WHAT MAKES A WOMAN UNFORGETTABLE ", IT IS TO BE NOTED THAT DECENT GENTLEMAN, RECOGNIZE THAT WOMEN ARE INTELLIGENT. HER INTELLIGENCE FLOWERS INTO A RICH AND MELLOW WISDOM. IT IS LIKE A MAGIC PRODUCING SOMETHING WONDERFUL FOR THIS OLD WORLD. SHE UNDERSTANDS WITH HER HEART; AND IT IS THIS THAT HELPS HER BUILD A BRIDGE OF NEW OPPORTUNITIES AND A NEW LIFE FOR A BROKEN WORLD.
IN CONCLUSION, ONE CAN QUOTE THE VICTORIAN AGE WITH ALL ITS BEAUTY FOR WOMANHOOD, AND THAT IS THAT AN UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN IS UNFORGETTABLE BECAUSE SHE IS GOOD.
HAS THE WOMAN OF TODAY LOST SOMETHING?
THE WOMAN OF TODAY WHO HAS LOST THIS SENSE OF AN UNFORGETTABLE WOMAN LACKS FULFILLMENT. REMEMBER! NATURE IS ON GOD'S SIDE. THE WOMAN WHO LACKS THESE QUALITIES HAS A SHORT TENURE ON CHARM. WHY? BECAUSE GOODNESS IS MORE IMPERISHABLE, MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN ALL THIS KINGDOM CALLED EARTH. INDEED SHE MAKES EVERYONE SHE MEETS LARGER THAN LIFE.
A POWERFUL THOUGHT FOR WOMEN!
WOMEN, HERE IS AN AMUSING BUT TRUTHFUL FACT FROM HOLY SCRIPTURE. WHEN A MAN, WHOEVER HE IS OR IN WHATEVER ROLE HE IS IN WITH YOU, JUST REMEMBER THAT THE HOLY BOOK SAYS THAT A WOMAN WAS MADE FROM THE SIDE OF ADAM; THE MAN WAS MADE FROM DUST. BUT IS IT NOT REMARKABLE THAT MAN IS STILL CHASING THE OTHER RIB?
WOMEN,
KNOW WHO YOU ARE. NO MASK IS NECESSARY FOR YOUR BEAUTY.
AND YOU TOO, DEAR PRECIOUS LADIES,
NEVER BETRAY FALSELY YOUR WOMANHOOD TO DESTROY A MAN!
SHALL WE PRAY?
TO OUR HOLY MOTHER, THAT UNFORGETTABLE
WOMAN, A WOMAN CALLED MARY OF NAZARETH
DEAR HOLY MOTHER OF GOD, YOU WORE IN YOUR LIFETIME THE RED ROSE OF SUFFERING, THE WHITE ROSE OF PURITY, THE GOLDEN ROSE OF VICTORY. OUR PRAYERS TO YOU DO NOT STOP AT YOU. YOU ARE NOT THE WALL WHERE OUR PRAYERS ARE HALTED, YOU ARE NOT THE ROSE, BUT ONLY THE STEM. YOU ARE NOT THE BLOOD, THAT PRECIOUS SHED BLOOD OF JESUS. NO! YOU ARE THE CHALICE HOLDING THE LORD. HOW GREAT INDEED YOU ARE BY HIS GRACE DIVINE!
DEAR HOLY VIRGIN AND MOTHER OF CHRIST, OUR SPIRITUAL MOTHER, GOD GRANTED YOU THE FULLNESS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. YOU WERE GIVEN TO US AS BOTH MOTHER AND MODEL. THROUGH YOUR CREATION, YOU ARE THE SECOND EVE AS PLANNED IN THE DIVINE REDEMPTIVE MISSION FOR MANKIND. OH, YES! GREAT INDEED ARE YOU! HOW MAGNIFICENT GOD MADE YOU! YOU WERE SO AWARE OF THIS MIGHTY PRESENCE WITHIN HIS VISITATION TO YOU THAT YOU DID PRAISINGLY CRY OUT IN GRATEFUL PRAYER " THE MAGNIFICAT " : " MY SOUL DOES MAGNIFY THE LORD. "
DEAR PRECIOUS HOLY MOTHER,
GRANT TO US IN THIS WORLD OF A VALLEY OF TEARS WOMEN OF SUBSTANCE, WOMEN OF UNFORGETTABLE VIRTUE. GRANT TO US THE GIFT OF NOBLE WOMEN WHO HAVE NOT LOST THE SENSE OF HOLINESS. MAY THEY LOOK UP TO YOUR STAR AND FOLLOW YOU AS GOD GAVE YOU TO US, THE MODEL OF ALL BEAUTY.
HOLY MARY, MOTHER OF GOD'S CHILDREN, PRAY FOR US WITH YOUR INTERCESSORY POWERFUL PRESENCE BEFORE THE WHITE THRONE OF THE TRINITY. MAY THE WOMEN OF THIS EARTH LOOK UP TO YOU AND FOLLOW YOUR STAR. YOUR STAR ALONE ALWAYS SHINES IN THE HEAVENS ABOVE. PRAY FOR ALL OF US, ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN OF ALL AGES, THAT NONE OF THEM BE DECEIVED IN THEIR VISION OF WOMANHOOD. HELP WOMEN NOT TO FOLLOW THE FALLING STARS THAT FADE WITH EVERY FLICKER THAT PASSES AWAY INTO THE DUST OF TIME.
SO LET THIS PRAYER BE, AMEN
GOD LOVE YOU +
FATHER RALPH A. DIORIO
DIRECTOR